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Friends with Benefits

Thursday, September 25th, 2008

By Monica F. Helms

 

I’m sure blog readers have heard the phrase “Friends with Benefits” quite often, since they consist of some rather sophisticated people out there.  Whenever people hear “FWB,” it conjures up all kinds of lustful images in their minds, mostly about noncommittal sex with a good friend.  This phrase came in existence in about the late 80’s, early 90’s by the younger crowd, but it has worked its way to all generations.

 

This subject has come up on occasions with some of my friends and ex-girlfriends, discussing it at lengths, which made me feel the need to write about my feeling on this.  The Internet has plenty of pages on FWB, so I’m not breaking into new territory.  Of course, most of what you find on the Internet has been geared toward straight people, but the idea has become common in the LGBT community as well.

 

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Sex, Love and Transsexuals

Wednesday, February 6th, 2008

by Monica F. Helms Monica’s Picture

“Arrrrggg! Monica said the other s-word! She will burn in Hell for this!”

Okay, so that is a bit melodramatic, but after ten plus years living as a woman and interacting in the transgender community, I seem to get the impression that transsexuals, specifically transsexual women, are more prudish about sex and love than the Quakers were back in the 1700s. However, not 100% of the transsexual women I have met feel this way. For the most part, those not afraid of sex have wonderful loves in their lives and are happy.

Why are some transsexual women afraid of sex, or even afraid to discuss it? (I hesitate talking about the men, since I haven’t talked with them on this subject very much. But, I haven’t noticed any of them afraid of sex, or afraid to discuss it. If there are some, I would like someone to write about why.)

It is interesting to hear the various reasons trans women give for forgoing sexual contact with another person. One thing I hear some say is, “Estrogen made me lose my libido.” There is indeed a physical change in the libido level when a male-to-female transsexual begins hormone treatments. However, we have more control over our libido levels then we are sometimes willing to accept. (more…)

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