Comments on: Sex, Love and Transsexuals http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/love/sex-love-and-transsexuals.htm Going where no blog has gone before. Fri, 21 May 2010 00:53:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Gwen Boucher http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/love/sex-love-and-transsexuals.htm/comment-page-1#comment-92422 Gwen Boucher Wed, 18 Nov 2009 22:43:23 +0000 http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/uncategorized/sex-love-and-transsexuals.htm#comment-92422 Hi Monica: In looking at your article, I too agree that Transwomen, I know don't really seem to address their sexuality. Of course, I don't really don't have much desire, except about once a month. I have no idea if it is cyclical with the moon, or any of that. I refer to myself as a woman, since as far as I am concerned, the surgery, and pain from the transition "entitles me". :) I have several genetic female friends, and we talk about my past less and less. There are males in my life but at 62 years old, none seem interested in a personal relationship with me. Many Blessings Gwen Hi Monica:

In looking at your article, I too agree that Transwomen, I know don’t really seem to address their sexuality. Of course, I don’t really don’t have much desire, except about once a month. I have no idea if it is cyclical with the moon, or any of that.

I refer to myself as a woman, since as far as I am concerned, the surgery, and pain from the transition “entitles me”. :)

I have several genetic female friends, and we talk about my past less and less. There are males in my life but at 62 years old, none seem interested in a personal relationship with me.

Many Blessings

Gwen

]]> By: leece http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/love/sex-love-and-transsexuals.htm/comment-page-1#comment-40842 leece Sun, 05 Apr 2009 01:50:36 +0000 http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/uncategorized/sex-love-and-transsexuals.htm#comment-40842 Hi i am very difrent i would love to love a women but they are not intrested in me. that makes emotions very hard to control at times. guys yuck hehehe Hi
i am very difrent i would love to love a women but they are not intrested in me. that makes emotions very hard to control at times.
guys yuck hehehe

]]> By: Anne http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/love/sex-love-and-transsexuals.htm/comment-page-1#comment-24066 Anne Mon, 05 Jan 2009 21:23:43 +0000 http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/uncategorized/sex-love-and-transsexuals.htm#comment-24066 Well in regards to the ladys question of why Post op women fear sex, I would like to add my two cents..My libido didnt die out it increased ten fold. OMG sex as a woman is more amazing than I ever could have imagined..I dated one guy for about six months...During that time I did lose my virginity for the second time. I have to say that being with him made me feel more complete as a woman..Just lying with him after sex, my hand upon his chest..mmmmmm I digress.. We broke up and I believe the reason is because he was just curious to find out was it was like to be with a tranny..I feel used..Ok Ok..lots of women feel used..I just wasn't ready for that shock..Besides he was a slob..I cleaned his entire house. Maybe he resented clean..I dont know..But now I just dont want to put myself out there again. Honestly I dont trust guys..Then there is always the fear that the whole affair might just be a trap to lure in unsuspecting Transsexuals so they can be murdered.. Im only a tad paranoid.. My other fear is that one morning my genteman friend might wake up and realize..OMG..Im sleeping with a guy that wants to be woman..sigh..Then he beats my head in. ouch..Its much safer with finding a lover thats lesbian..God if I only could.Sincerely Anne Well in regards to the ladys question of why Post op women fear sex, I would like to add my two cents..My libido didnt die out it increased ten fold. OMG sex as a woman is more amazing than I ever could have imagined..I dated one guy for about six months…During that time I did lose my virginity for the second time. I have to say that being with him made me feel more complete as a woman..Just lying with him after sex, my hand upon his chest..mmmmmm I digress.. We broke up and I believe the reason is because he was just curious to find out was it was like to be with a tranny..I feel used..Ok Ok..lots of women feel used..I just wasn’t ready for that shock..Besides he was a slob..I cleaned his entire house. Maybe he resented clean..I dont know..But now I just dont want to put myself out there again. Honestly I dont trust guys..Then there is always the fear that the whole affair might just be a trap to lure in unsuspecting Transsexuals so they can be murdered.. Im only a tad paranoid.. My other fear is that one morning my genteman friend might wake up and realize..OMG..Im sleeping with a guy that wants to be woman..sigh..Then he beats my head in. ouch..Its much safer with finding a lover thats lesbian..God if I only could.Sincerely Anne

]]> By: Meghan Racicot http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/love/sex-love-and-transsexuals.htm/comment-page-1#comment-17611 Meghan Racicot Thu, 11 Dec 2008 17:56:37 +0000 http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/uncategorized/sex-love-and-transsexuals.htm#comment-17611 Hi, monica Good article, it does bring few emotions that i have experienced. What is sad though is the fact that people take their genitilia for granted or automatically on how they should behave. And also, it seems there is a big push for....erotism,sexuality and feminity of being shameful feelings.... throughout the western world and also the now westernized third world.....because various sources say we have to be serious in society or the three are the causes of violence against women or are making males to become sexual deviants or just too sexual ....gradually, ever since the sexual revolution, asexuality or non-sexuality is running suprême and this mouvement is very socially violent. Keep up writing transsexual informations for all of us! As for me, I am looking for surgeons or something that can reshape my hipbone as of a human female's. Yes, I know! I also have this corporal shape dysphoria. Sincerely, Meghan. Hi, monica

Good article, it does bring few emotions that i have experienced.
What is sad though is the fact that people take their genitilia for granted or automatically on how they should behave.
And also, it seems there is a big push for….erotism,sexuality and feminity of being shameful feelings…. throughout the western world and also the now westernized third world…..because various sources say we have to be serious in society or the three are the causes of violence against women or are making males to become sexual deviants or just too sexual ….gradually, ever since the sexual revolution, asexuality or non-sexuality is running suprême and this mouvement is very socially violent.

Keep up writing transsexual informations for all of us!

As for me, I am looking for surgeons or something that can reshape my hipbone as of a human female’s.
Yes, I know! I also have this corporal shape dysphoria.

Sincerely, Meghan.

]]> By: yvonne http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/love/sex-love-and-transsexuals.htm/comment-page-1#comment-15732 yvonne Tue, 25 Nov 2008 22:47:17 +0000 http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/uncategorized/sex-love-and-transsexuals.htm#comment-15732 Hi Monica, I read your article above with interest because naturally enough I find it mirrors much of my own experience. I think we get hard hearts in the same way that farmers get callouses on their hands. I am quite a cheery person, a stong person, compassionate but also quite remote. Prior to starting transition I have had relationships but never with the sense of abandon you suspect others enjoy and that I think you really need to love sexually, distinct tennants in the same building notwithstanding. Well its not surprising, you just dont know what to do when you have this biochemical and genetic composition do you and you dont readily find an identity that mirrors your own when its like this, when you have grown up with the knowledge that you are apart. I havent had a sexual relationship in five years, the last two of those being in transition. Im not really sure how I can go about changing this and I just feel I'm missing out on so much. I'm not even that skilled at exploring my own body. It just seems so hard to stimulate myself and I think this is as much mental as physical. Well I just dont know, maybe it will happen but Im not holding my breath. Thanks for your article, best regards Yvonne Hi Monica, I read your article above with interest because naturally enough I find it mirrors much of my own experience. I think we get hard hearts in the same way that farmers get callouses on their hands. I am quite a cheery person, a stong person, compassionate but also quite remote. Prior to starting transition I have had relationships but never with the sense of abandon you suspect others enjoy and that I think you really need to love sexually, distinct tennants in the same building notwithstanding. Well its not surprising, you just dont know what to do when you have this biochemical and genetic composition do you and you dont readily find an identity that mirrors your own when its like this, when you have grown up with the knowledge that you are apart. I havent had a sexual relationship in five years, the last two of those being in transition. Im not really sure how I can go about changing this and I just feel I’m missing out on so much. I’m not even that skilled at exploring my own body. It just seems so hard to stimulate myself and I think this is as much mental as physical. Well I just dont know, maybe it will happen but Im not holding my breath. Thanks for your article, best regards Yvonne

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