Comments on: Stuck in Loneliness http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/sex/stuck-in-loneliness.htm Going where no blog has gone before. Fri, 21 May 2010 00:53:03 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Lorelei Erisis http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/sex/stuck-in-loneliness.htm/comment-page-1#comment-70285 Lorelei Erisis Sat, 11 Jul 2009 03:28:56 +0000 http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/?p=565#comment-70285 Ah, if you like, please take a look at my blog: "TransProviser" http://transprov.wordpress.com/ Slainte! Lorelei Erisis Ah, if you like, please take a look at my blog: “TransProviser”
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]]> By: Lorelei Erisis http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/sex/stuck-in-loneliness.htm/comment-page-1#comment-70284 Lorelei Erisis Sat, 11 Jul 2009 03:26:57 +0000 http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/?p=565#comment-70284 Monica! Thanks so much for this insightful and touching piece! I was told to read this by my friend Bet Power and boy was he right! Just reading this made my heart pang and my eyes tear at hard memories. I'm a transwoman and I've been in a long term relationship with a ciswoman for about 4 years. When we met she had just come out of a long term lesbian relationship and I was still living as a man. I wasn't sure she liked men and she thought I was gay. Turns out we were both right/wrong. Nonetheless we fell quite in love. Sadly though, we have been separated by a 3000 mile distance since October. She was accepted to grad school in San Diego but when we tried to find a place there we quickly discovered that SD is radically unfriendly to transfolks. Dangerously so. As a result of that and some family trouble I had to come back to the east coast. We talk regularly, but I miss her terribly. I know I'm tremendously lucky even to have found her but sometimes the loneliness of not being near each other is quite overwhelming. Thanks for this piece. Monica! Thanks so much for this insightful and touching piece! I was told to read this by my friend Bet Power and boy was he right! Just reading this made my heart pang and my eyes tear at hard memories.
I’m a transwoman and I’ve been in a long term relationship with a ciswoman for about 4 years. When we met she had just come out of a long term lesbian relationship and I was still living as a man. I wasn’t sure she liked men and she thought I was gay. Turns out we were both right/wrong. Nonetheless we fell quite in love.
Sadly though, we have been separated by a 3000 mile distance since October. She was accepted to grad school in San Diego but when we tried to find a place there we quickly discovered that SD is radically unfriendly to transfolks. Dangerously so.
As a result of that and some family trouble I had to come back to the east coast.
We talk regularly, but I miss her terribly. I know I’m tremendously lucky even to have found her but sometimes the loneliness of not being near each other is quite overwhelming.
Thanks for this piece.

]]> By: connie http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/sex/stuck-in-loneliness.htm/comment-page-1#comment-50058 connie Fri, 05 Jun 2009 04:27:34 +0000 http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/?p=565#comment-50058 in my experience, lesbians absolutely do reject transwomen as potential partners. More generally I still cling to some hope of finding someone to love me. I think it can only happen if some one gets to know me a little and we can bond as friends. then maybe. a big maybe. i never thought transitioning would mean giving up on intimacy, but that does seem to be my fight. Loneliness is so hard and such a prison. I'm not sure how much more i can take. in my experience, lesbians absolutely do reject transwomen as potential partners. More generally I still cling to some hope of finding someone to love me. I think it can only happen if some one gets to know me a little and we can bond as friends. then maybe. a big maybe.
i never thought transitioning would mean giving up on intimacy, but that does seem to be my fight. Loneliness is so hard and such a prison. I’m not sure how much more i can take.

]]> By: Brielle http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/sex/stuck-in-loneliness.htm/comment-page-1#comment-45993 Brielle Tue, 05 May 2009 21:24:10 +0000 http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/?p=565#comment-45993 Loneliness and I go way back, so it's nice to read this. I have thought lots about posting on the subject. I was just thinking about 'dating' this morning. I've only dated one girl in 10 years and it didn't last long. She wanted me to be 'the guy' and I couldn't do it. This was before I even started hormones. I was invited into a lesbian web group some months back - but I think I'm the only transwoman out of hundreds. Anyway - I recently came across this question on one of the blogs - "What would you do if you were dating a girl you dig and she confessed she was transgender?" The response was overwhelmingly - almost repulsion, that is, most said that they would definitely drop her. Some added unsavory remarks. I was so shocked that everyone felt that way - it made me so sad, and it has been bothering me a lot, because I am lesbian and hope to find someone some day, but that sure puts a weight on my shoulders. I just want to forget about it, and then again, I need to face the truth. Do you know any way of finding out more? I mean do lesbians generally reject transwomen as potential partners? Loneliness and I go way back, so it’s nice to read this. I have thought lots about posting on the subject.

I was just thinking about ‘dating’ this morning. I’ve only dated one girl in 10 years and it didn’t last long. She wanted me to be ‘the guy’ and I couldn’t do it. This was before I even started hormones.

I was invited into a lesbian web group some months back – but I think I’m the only transwoman out of hundreds. Anyway – I recently came across this question on one of the blogs – “What would you do if you were dating a girl you dig and she confessed she was transgender?” The response was overwhelmingly – almost repulsion, that is, most said that they would definitely drop her. Some added unsavory remarks. I was so shocked that everyone felt that way – it made me so sad, and it has been bothering me a lot, because I am lesbian and hope to find someone some day, but that sure puts a weight on my shoulders. I just want to forget about it, and then again, I need to face the truth. Do you know any way of finding out more? I mean do lesbians generally reject transwomen as potential partners?

]]> By: Jason Green http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/sex/stuck-in-loneliness.htm/comment-page-1#comment-45063 Jason Green Sun, 26 Apr 2009 06:05:50 +0000 http://www.monicahelms.com/blog/?p=565#comment-45063 Hey Monica, It was great seeing you at the Phoenix Gay Pride parade. Please stay in touch. Check out my blog, www.jasonhowardgreen.com. It addresses issues for the black LGBT community. Also, check out my video from the parade. You're in it at 7:19. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g0jrnVxxUBA Take care, J Hey Monica,
It was great seeing you at the Phoenix Gay Pride parade. Please stay in touch. Check out my blog, http://www.jasonhowardgreen.com. It addresses issues for the black LGBT community.
Also, check out my video from the parade. You’re in it at
7:19.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g0jrnVxxUBA
Take care,
J

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